An increasing amount of people have been inquiring about my marital status, so I have decided to just make a post on my blog to bring light of the current situation. Many people have probably figured it out by now, but I am no longer married. Well, technically still married but the final divorce proceedings are on hold due to my current financial woes. For those who know me, I have been working tirelessly to improve the flow of income. Was I trying to hide it? Nope. What’s over is over. I see no need to dwell on it everyday.
I don’t feel the need to go into any juicy details because at this point, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is picking up the pieces and moving forward to survive, become a better person and first and foremost, be the best father that I can be. *dusts off cape* My soon to be ex wife and I had a good 7 year run, but after many struggles, we both came to the conclusion that we just didn’t need to be married anymore.
Am I angry and hurt? Not anymore. It took some time, but I am over the bitterness and anger. It makes no sense and it’s not productive. Also, how can I be angry at the woman that gave birth to our beautiful daughters? I’ll be forever grateful to her for that. Am I disappointed? Yes, I think we both are in some way. Am I glad to be single again? Hell, no. I struggle with the single parent thing at times, but it’s OK since my ex and I share custody of the girls. We still communicate almost daily and keep each other in the loop when it comes to the kids and their well being. They are the priority. Having great family and friends has also helped along the way. Humor is also a great coping tool for me. Will I ever marry again? Probably not. I don’t like dating. That whole “getting to know you” thing sucks. I pretty much let people know who I am up front. Hence, a DadUnmasked.
The comments option is on but I’m not looking for pity, sympathy nor advice. The divorce has been in the works for almost a year now, so I’ve pretty much heard it all.
This is my life now and as my friend @JonathenBrown so frankly stated, “It’s not how I designed it, but that’s how it worked out.”
Stay tuned…
February 5th, 2010 on 6:47 pm
kudos to you for your vulnerability…
divorce isn’t fun or easy but you’re right, having great family and friends helps so much…
nice blog btw!
February 7th, 2010 on 2:38 pm
This divorced mom will stay tuned and supports you!
February 15th, 2010 on 6:54 pm
Nicely stated dude! Keep your head up as you have beautiful little girls and to them you are the Superhero!
February 19th, 2010 on 6:19 am
Divorce can be tough…this was nicely written and shows you have respect for your (ex)wife and that you love those girls!! RealDadsHangout is right, you ARE their superhero! (Mine too, but we don’t need to go there…) Good luck to you!
March 23rd, 2010 on 6:12 am
Having gone through a divorce and now co-parenting myself, I am so glad to hear that you and your soon-to-be-ex are communicating and working as a parenting team for your daughters sake. Your attitude makes a world of difference for your kids, as you know. You have a standing invitation to guest-blog for us at CoParenting101.org! All the best to you and your family.